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A time comes in your life when you finally get it When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH ALREADY! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. Slowly, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world through new eyes.
You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that in the real world there aren't always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of happily ever after must begin with you, and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance. Accepting how things are and that you cannot change them is most difficult. Arriving at an inner peace that this is fact seems to be even more difficult.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect, and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are and that's OK (Others are entitled to their own views and opinions.) You begin to learn the importance of loving and championing yourself, your goals, your desires, and in the process a sense of newly found confidence is born of self-approval.
You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn't do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say, and that not everyone will always be there for you, and that life is not always about you.
So, you learn to stand on your own, to take care of yourself and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance. You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are, to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and, in the process, a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness. As Louise Hay used to say, true forgiveness is forgiving others for what they have done or what they have not done, past, present and future. You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you, is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche from birth.
As you begin to sift through all the crap you've been fed about how you should behave, how you should look, how much you shouldn't weigh, what you should wear, where you should shop, what you should drive, how and where you should live, what you should do for a living, who you should sleep with, who you should marry, what you should expect of a marriage or what you owe your parents, you learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. This is a great step is getting to know yourself.
There was a time that I did not know of any style of furniture except Ethan Allen. One day a friend of mine took me into New York City. We went to a huge furniture store. There was a different theme setting on each floor. One floor was French Provincial, one floor was Chinese, one floor was Mediterranean, one floor was Modern. What a shock that was for me. I loved going to each floor, and to watch my inner reactions. I learned what I liked and did not like. What warmed my heart and made me feel comfortable and what did not. It was a great experience.
As you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for, you learn the difference between wanting and needing, and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with. In the process you learn to respect your instincts.
You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive. That there is power and glory in creating and contributing, and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a consumer looking for your next fix. You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life. This is how Love begins. This is how trust builds. When you find your truth, your specialness within your own heart, growth occurs and happiness follows.
You learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job to save the world, and that you can't teach a pig to sing. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility, and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry, and that martyrs get burned at the stake. Guilt is someone else wanting you to do what you really do not want to do, and it doesnąt work. It is manipulation and control, and in seeing this, you can resist the old feeling of I have to, and begin to live as you choose without having to apologize to anyone.
Then you learn about love; romantic love and familial love. You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable, or important because of the man or woman on your arm, or the child that bears your name. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations, and outcomes. You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love. You find out that love is a verb, it is action. You can then look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10 and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head while agonizing over how you stack up. You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity, and respect, and you will not settle for less.
You allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you, to glorify you with his or her touch and in the process you internalize the meaning of self-respect. You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water, and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue diminishes the Spirit and can create doubt and fear, so you take more time to rest.
Just as food fuels the body, you find that laughter fuels the Soul, so you take more time to laugh and to play. You learn that, for the most part in life, you get what you believe you deserve and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for, and that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen. More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success, you need direction, discipline, and perseverance. One thing that seems to be lacking at this time in our history is discipline. Remember the word is from disciple, or a follower of truth. You also learn that no one can do it all alone and that it's okay to risk asking for help.
You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time, FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears, because you know that whatever happens you can handle it. You know that to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your terms. You learn to fight for your life, appreciate your time on Earth, and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom. You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think you deserve, and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people.
On these occasions you learn not to personalize things. You learn that God isn't punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. It's just life happening. Then you will learn to deal with evil in its most primal state - the EGO. (Easing God Out!) You learn that feelings such as anger, envy, and resentment must be understood and redirected, or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.
You learn to admit when you are wrong, to make amends when you can, and to build bridges instead of walls. You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about; such as a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, or a long hot shower. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself, and you try to make yourself a promise-to never betray yourself. So, you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind. You put out a bird house with fresh seed and smile as the colorful birds come to feed. You make it a point to keep smiling, keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility. Each day is an experience, and nothing lasts forever, except the imprint of love within your heart.
Finally, with courage in your heart you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live, as best as you can. It is then that you can truly share with others.
Oh, one more thing! There is something you should know. You have been loved since long ago, and are never without it. This love is deep within your own heart. Without love your Soul will fade away. Your Soulmate is here on the planet, waiting for you.
Thought about what exactly what you're looking for in a Soulmate? To attract what you want in your life, you must have a clear vision of yourself and your desired lover. It is said that the most effective method is to define your personal vision by creating a list of the qualities you seek in a Soulmate. List sat least ten different qualities you'd like to see in a lover and lifetime partner. Read it every night before you go to bed. This way you are placing these qualities in your mind and they will begin to work for you during your dream state. This list will provide you with a perfect guideline to use for your personal inventory. Leave all the negatives and the "I don't wants" out. Only list the positive qualities you would like to sjare in your life. Here are some important values that you will want to include in your inventory, however, they're not set it stone! You can update and change your list as often as you like. In fact, every time you go on a date or meet a new potential partner, you should be comparing that person to your list and perhaps add a note or two! Remember the law of physics: like energy attracts like energy! Dr. Deepak Chopra teaches us that we actualize what we visualize. This works. I know because I did it and was successful. Do you possess the qualities that you seek in your potential partner?
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The most important value is being able to trust your partner. Do they talk the talk or actually walk the walk? Can you count on them? Will they do what's right and be there when you need them? What about you? These shared values - honesty, trust and caring - form the basis of a lasting relationship.
To have a lasting relationship, it's important for both people to be emotionally healthy. Do they have a positive attitude and look forward to their lives? Do they like and respect themselves? Do they respect their family and parents? Their heritage? What about you? When you're are at peace with yourself, you won't need others to make you happy. You don't need seek validation outside of yourself or carouse around looking for love. You'll find happiness inside you!
One of the top reasons for divorce is financial irresponsibility by one of the partners. Does this person's career provide a lifestyle you're comfortable with? Do they handle their money wisely? Can you easily discuss finances or everyday expenses. Is your partner supportive when it comes to money? What about you? Think about this one carefully.
We all want to be physically attracted to someone. Do they take time for their appearance? Do they eat and exercise to stay fit? What about you? We cannnot attract to us what we are not.
Lasting partnerships are created when both partners feel safe to share their thoughts, concerns and dreams. Will they communicate their thoughts? Do they run from confrontation? Do they laugh and put down some of your ideas? And you? You want someone who's willing to develop and maintain good listening and communication skills.
Confident people radiate a glow that inevitably attracts us. Does they have strong self-esteem? Have they take responsibility for their own life? Even the most tender of partners should bring strength, reassurance and stability to a relationship.
Do you have the same idea of a marriage? What do you and your mate expect from marriage and sex? Are they looking for a soul mate? Do you both want close intimacy in friendship, finances, communication and sex?
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